We live in a world where motivation is everywhere. Every Facebook feed has 3 posts on how to be happier, healthier and better. We hear stories of someone being motivated to be the next Steve Jobs or Elon Musk by seeing their accomplishments & wanting to reach that level.
Although all this information is a great tool to know what’s out there, it can also be insanely counter productive for motivation. I haven’t invented anything amazing recently, however if I did and I was on a roll with it, seeing someone who is way ahead of me (and there always is someone way ahead of you) may fan my fire if I’m having a great day. However, if I’m in the middle of a struggle or pretty much any other time it will make me feel down and insufficient.
Here’s some keys I’ve picked up to maintain motivation
1. Your greatest motivators may come wrapped in sandpaper instead of flowers
This is HUGE! So many of us attribute lack of motivation to the fact that things aren’t ready yet.
‘I would go to the gym but I’m self conscious being so out of shape.’ ‘I would start that invention but I don’t have the money to take it anywhere yet.’ ‘I’ll wait until the kids are done college.’ ‘I’ll wait until I find the right relationship & settle down.’ ‘I love writing but I had that one teacher who told me I was the worst he’d ever seen.’
Our excuses can be pretty sexy. It’s easy to believe that you ‘would if’ because it takes the pressure off of this moment. But what if this moment just lead to another moment that you don’t feel ready? Here’s the thing, when you’re too perfect or too ready you’re not relatable. People don’t want perfect they want real. Real means you still have work to do. Real means there’s areas of your life you haven’t mastered. Real means it might be a bit messy sometimes.
Use your not ready-ness as fuel. Use your insecurities as confirmations of what you don’t know. If you know that you don’t know, you can create a space in your life for that information to come to you. For example, if you know that you don’t know how to feel comfortable in your body and what you need to do to improve it, relish in the fact that you now know where you need to improve! You know you don’t know, and let that be the starting point. See how you can switch it around? If there is anything in your life that is not the way you want it to be, there’s something you don’t know. This is what leads to being grateful for our obstacles along the way.
2. STOP COMPARING
I put this one in capitols because it’s really important and hard to do in today’s information age.
Listen, is it great to have a reference point for where you want to go? Absolutely.
However, if that reference point is someone you don’t know that comes from a family you’ve never met and has had a life you haven’t been a part of, stop comparing yourself! They can absolutely be an inspiration or a mentor from afar, but comparing accomplishments is the fastest way to feel inferior.
The antidote to this is clarity. Once you have achieved clarity on where you want to go, what matters to you, your goals and your desired quality of life then you need to find a coach to push you, an accountability partner who won’t let you off the hook and get focused on where you’re going. Stay in your own lane. This isn’t to say never look at what anyone else is doing – I don’t think you could do that if you tried! This is to say that comparison can be a beast and it’s not helpful when you don’t have all the information. It’s nearly impossible to hit a moving target, so if your vision for what you want isn’t crystal clear that should be the first thing to focus on.
3. Use up all the resources possible
Nothing will fuel your fire like progress. Making progress is such a high. The easiest way to get out of any slump is focus on something you can achieve in the next 7 days. Just one thing. That’ll get the juices flowing and then you’re off.
There are SO many resources available once we open our eyes to them. People who used to be unreachable can now be found by contactanycelebrity.com. We’re in the knowledge era! Who has a piece of what you want to know? You Tube the shit out of them. Get the book. Read the bio. Extract anything you can from their life lessons and you could cut years off of your leaning curve. Falling in love with learning is essential to creating anything new in your life.
A side note on this one is don’t be intimidated by people who are much more accomplished than you. Often, these people are the most willing to help up and comers because they know all about the struggle. Even if someone is a jerk and blows you off, so what? You’re in the exact same position you were before. Don’t take it personally and move on.
Anything else help you out massively in times of change? Comment away.