I don’t write too often about body image but with the holidays coming up and all these posts about holiday weight, I wanted to share a little secret with everyone that’s worked for me and transformed my body.

So let’s say that you are deciding between consuming 90 calories of almonds or 90 calories of soda. Same amount of calories, right? Shouldn’t be too big of a variation in terms of what could happen with that.

Of course there is a difference with what your body is going to do with these 2 different sources of fuel. But the most important thing I want to get at is not that you should never have soda again, but to pay attention to your body. If you’re craving soda, your body is asking for SUGAR (it has to be, because that’s basically the only ingredient in it). If you’re craving almonds, your body is asking for fats, protein & fiber. See the correlation? So I don’t want you to condemn any foods EVER! From now on, everything you put in your body is ok. What I want you to condemn is the state of feeling guilty about the foods you do (or don’t) eat.

What I mean by this is simple.

You’re on a diet and you’re eating raw broccoli as opposed to the pasta you wish you could be eating. You’re almost cursing the vegetables as you feel forced to consume them. Despite the fact that you intellectually know that broccoli is good for you (all the vitamins and shit), the positive effects of the food will NOT be reflected in your body when you’re in a mindset of frustration or lack. When the mind and the body aren’t in sync (basically meaning they’re not respecting each other) it doesn’t matter what you’re eating or how hard you’re working out– things will not work. You’ll be constipated, develop acne, create hormonal imbalances, get bloated, have diarrhea, low energy, weight gain or inability to gain weight.

The reason I know this is because how you think and speak about your body is as important as how you would handle a relationship. If you were dating somebody and said:

“Hey, I think you’re awesome and it looks like we’re stuck together. However I really prefer it when you behave a certain way because it makes me feel more valuable and loved. When you don’t behave that way I’m going to be very upset and probably put a bunch of strict rules in place to bring you back to where I want you to be – so I can feel better. And please keep in mind that even when you are perfect I may be worried about times you weren’t perfect and bring that up in conversation with our friends. So we cool?”

Fuck no you’re not cool! No person in their right mind would ever date somebody like that. So my challenge to you is to treat your body like you’re trying to build a relationship with it. Be kind to it, give it the benefit of the doubt, respect it and show your body it’s valued. You could do this in so many ways – take 5 minutes out of every day and acknowledge everything your body does right (it can be as simple as blinking, beating heart, etc), have a hot bath, do a breathing exercise, dry brush your body or simply rub your tummy and say “I love you, tummy”. This may sound corny but my guess is, just like everyone else, you’re looking for a way to enjoy your life & the body you’ve been given – so give corny a shot. Or don’t, and stop reading. Your relationship to your body should be a top priority, way above your diet or workout regime. You need to regain the trust of your body by breaking the cycle of negative momentum. When it comes to how you think about your figure, you must be kind and patient with yourself about this process – it will take time! You’ve been thinking these limiting thoughts for a while and they’re not going to stop right away.

So this holiday season, when you reach for another egg nog or that desert, make a pact that you are going to feel great about this decision! You’re going to love this desert, appreciate every bite. When you think the first thought about feeling guilty about what you ate (which you will) laugh at yourself and say “that’s hilarious I used to think that way. I’m not gonna go there anymore.” Repeat this process until you don’t go there anymore. With doing this, you will find it much easier to appreciate the broccoli that comes onto your plate in the same way.

That’s my food for thought. Happy holidays everyone! xx

PS – The pic above is 10 months apart. 10 MONTHS! This shit works.